Where in the USA Should I Live? Open to all suggestions.

So got myself in a pickle. Married a foreigner who didn't speak a lick of English when we met (Not a mail-order, just an illegal) We chose self removal to end the deportation process and in theory make returning and citizenship easier, things have gone to shit. Returning to her home country will be very dangerous, she's gone off the deep end. We (really she, I just did the branding/marketing and sales) built a business earning $14K a month minimum, some months flex up closer to $20K, I quit my six-figure corporate job to leave the country with her. Things were comfortable and we were fairly happy but being away from her family and children took its toll and my depression has only worsened.

I don't think staying married is an option as bad I want it and as important as the commitment of the vows is to me. I just haven't been capable of loving her the way she deserves and wants. Everything is a battle of wills with her. I'm exhausted emotionally. I really don't want to do anything any further. Don't really want to work. Don't really want to date anyone else. Don't really want pets. Just kinda want to wither away. I put off taking care of some health issues because those things can be done in her country really cheaply.

I've got $100K liquid, can raise up more funds by selling some cars and belongings, probably another $30-40K but need to get these health things taken care of.

I love sports, love the water and prefer getting all 4 seasons and not really into large metro areas with awful traffic. I thought Chicago would be cool but the last trip there has me never wanting to go back. Houston is out. Los Angeles, I don't think is a fit either but I love the West Coast. I didn't appreciate Santa Cruz as much as I should have when I lived in that area in 2009.

Where should I live and make the cash I have last until I get my head back on straight? I don't need fancy but safe and secure and a place where the 2nd Ammendment isn't a problem. A couple bonuses would be an area with lots of swimming pools, I can go back to that business if needed. Oh and I have a career where I can work fully remote.

Thanks in advance.