My husband (56) was diagnosed with ALS in July. We don’t think he will make it another year. I am 51 and won’t be able to receive his SS benefits until 62. He has a life insurance policy of $500k and a 401k that is close to $800k, but I know I don’t have access to the 401k until I think 59. I have a part time job that actually pays what I would make if I were full time. I was a stay at home mom for 20+ years and only have a year’s worth of college. We have a condo with $350k left to pay. Should I use the insurance policy to pay off the condo and bank the remaining balance? I can afford to pay all of the other bills with my salary.
Finance advice for a soon to be widow
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Posted by Kap2726
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*What is the interest rate on the mortgage?*
I’m so sorry for what you are going through.
I’m not an expert but please look into inherited IRAs – I believe that will let you access the 401k immediately if you need it. I’m glad you have a salary too.
If you did the inherited IRA route you would have $1.3M to last until you drew social security but you’ll likely want to wait as much as possible to draw on that money since you will most likely want to supplement social security in retirement
What is the rate on the condo loan?
What are your monthly expenses? What is your income from the part time job? Could you work full time?
Sorry for your news.
Sorry for your situation. I’d recommend paying off the $350K on the condo. Mortgage is most people’s largest expense, so if you can get rid of that, you should be ok provided there’s no other debt.
If you have a job that pays the bills, you are in a better situation than most and should be ok making it to retirement. See if you can add to that $800K. You likely have 11-14 years of working left, and can bank quite a bit for retirement in that time.
Is your husband’s 401K invested?
As an FYI, there are tricks to access 401k money before 59 and even 55. Look into Roth conversion ladders which is probably the easier path and rule 72(t), aka SEPP, withdrawals to access the money. I imagine Fidelity or whomever administrates the 401k could advise on these strategies.
$1.3MM invested could feasibly sustain a lifestyle of $52k/yr indefinitely as a frame of reference if invested well.
I’d also ask what is the interest rate on the house? If <4%, I wouldn’t pay it off a penny early. If more, I’d consider partial/full pay off depending on the rate.
Ultimately, to receive better guidance, you need to decide what your future goals are like early retirement, partial retirement, moving, traveling, etc.
People here will want to know what the interest rate on the $350K mortgage is.
I am sorry for what you are going through. This might depend on a few factors, including your mortgage payment and interest rate you are paying, and examine your monthly expenses. Do you have kids at home and/or are you supporting them?
You shouldn’t have to wait to access the 401k after he passes. You just have to pay income tax on it.
What’s the rate on your mortgage?
You would be eligible for widow benefits from social security at age 60. You could then later switch to your own benefit in the future at age 67 or even 70 if it was higher. If you have any minor children still living at home, you would also qualify for survivor and child in care benefits potentially but this is probably not relevant since you didn’t mention children still at home.
In terms of the life insurance benefit, you could pay off the condo and that might make the most sense depending on the rate on the loan. Alternately you could put the $500k in something like a short term treasury mutual fund and that could likely generate $1500+ per month at a 4% interest rate. That probably only makes sense if you have a very low rate on the condo however
I am sorry that your family is dealing with such a serious health issue. It sounds like a lot of good decisions were made over the years that you will be in pretty good shape financially but nobody wants to be in this position.
3.25%
At 3.25% I would not pay off the house early, it’s better to keep some liquid in an HYSA
I am so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. As others have noted you can take survivor SS benefits at 60 (not 62). If your husband is still employed make sure he doesn’t also have “free” life insurance with his employer as well (my employer pays for a $100,000 policy that my husband would get if I died while employed).
If he is a veteran make sure there are no pensions or life insurance that you may be able to receive after his death.
As others have also noted paying off the mortgage will depend a lot on the interest rate.
Thank you! No children at home anymore. The interest rate is 3.25%. I have never heard of a shirt term treasury mutual fund. I will look into that!
Questions you need to ask yourself before paying off your mortgage:
How old is the condo? Will it meet your needs long-term? Is it in good shape? Is it conveniently located? How much are the condo fees? How healthy is the reserve fund? Are there any big ticket items coming up in the next decade that owners will have to pay for? (Elevator, balconies, cladding, etc)
Is it going to be comforting and full of memories that keep you going or is it going to make you feel lonely and lost to live there alone?
The last one is the kicker. If you do decide to pay it off, wait six months and make sure it still feels like home.
And please budget for some self-care (therapy, massage, pedis, etc), some healthy activities (pottery class, a puppy, salsa dancing lessons, etc), and one high end baller holiday where you can watch whales or see the Parthenon or something meaningful that’s on your bucket list.
Put the Life Insurance in a HYSA and pay the mortgage with the income and whatever principle is needed – Until you have access to the 401K, keep money liquid just in case something goes wrong.
Make sure that the 401K is invested into a cheap index fund such as a S&P500 Index Fund so it grows while you are waiting.
My girlfriend is a 52 year old widow. I’m sorry for your situation. At 3.25% I wouldn’t pay off the mortgage, but I WOULD advise thinking about whether the living situation is still the right one. (Size wise, maintenance, location and proximity to loved ones, etc.) Also, I’m guessing you’ll be able to get survivor benefits from social security which is different from regular benefits.
Whatever you do with everything else, DO NOT pay off your mortgage. Very sorry for you and your husband. Good luck. God bless you.