I have been too obsessed with having my own business since I burned out at work, and it took way too many years and failed attempts before I admitted to myself this is not happening. My partner was there for the whole shit show.
While he repeatedly said he chose to support me and wants no money back, it is important for me to repay him, eventually.
But right now, I am in such shambles that I can`t forgive myself for having so much loving support and privilege, but always prioritizing wrong and making nothing of it.
I know the guilt and shame are useless and only make the situation worse, as I don`t build anymore, only regret the past.
Have you ever disappointed someone who loved and supported you and gotten over it?
Thank you
My partner, now ex, has supported me in my ideas for years, mentally and financially, and I never made anything of it. Now I am getting stable, but the guilt is crushing me.
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Posted by maricantera
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The fact that you want to pay him back and feel this guilty shows you’re not the selfish person you think you are. Failure doesn’t erase the fact that someone believed in you enough to invest – that’s actually pretty meaningful even if it didn’t work out
Take the lesson and channel that guilt into being the person who deserves that kind of support next time
All the time. I went through counselling and I learned how to forgive myself once I asked for forgiveness and was released into their forgiveness. The final step of a reconciliation process is to learn how to come clean and then forgive yourself. Give it a shot. Hey help as needed since this can rarely be done alone.
this hit harder than i expected.
i’ve disappointed someone who believed in me too. not in money exactly, but in time + energy. and yeah, the guilt doesn’t magically disappear just becoz you “know better” now.
one thing that helped me a bit: separating owing someone from punishing myself. regret feels like progress but it’s kinda fake work. nothing moves.
if he says he chose to support you, that agency matters. maybe the repayment isn’t money right now, maybe it’s just not wasting the present by living only in the past.
i don’t think you get over it. i think you carry it quieter.