So for context: currently I am from my understanding, a felon, for assault. Served my time. And context of that, was essentially a meltdown of working three jobs, losing a few due to stolen identity injury and loss of housing. And a forced career shift. All while, trying to navigate a relationship with a undocumented partner, who was otherwise absent for the better half of our relationship for five years. And a from my perspective and maybe I don't have the correct terminology. But a third party communicating in. Which during the extreme stress and continue circumstance wasn't beneficial to me. All in the same breath of being catfished and a notion, which I've not even been able to validate myself of marital law. Of which I've seen no documents for. In addition plainly getting rejected from said partner when I offered the ring to marriage. SO,
to elaborate on the anger and frustration. This is coming from somebody who, essentially me, who works three jobs all at the same time. While trying to go back to school. While trying to pay off student debt from my former college. Could not pay. What also navigating people stealing my identity. And in addition,
An absentee partner, will almost probably directly having to engage in sex work online and offline. And then in addition with that, I had to realize I was being catfish and scammed. While also navigating with certain dynamics that really altered my ability to act within the best conscience. And so with therapy, I've been able to express more of what I've been feeling. While also navigating certain circumstances and people constantly doing this thing which unfortunately I feel like you do. Which is essentially the darvo technique.
And again why I'm asking why we are focused on my anger instead of asking the questions that need to be relevant to this.
essentially I'm coming from a place of financial hardship, stolen identity, false love offers, stalking and harassment, homelessness, complete career shift. Institution, jail, isolation and alienation. And in addition and finality, not being able to engage in an activity that as a grown adult I should be able to without observation.
I apologize if that ruffles your feathers or offends you but I am genuinely seeking actual assistance and help with navigating this process.
Sidebar I don't know why I read it recommended this to me to post here but I guess.
Frustrated about moving forward, when It feels as though I'm not being allowed to when it's been, ultimately, proven they didn't want me.
byu/HumanVoltage inpersonalfinance
Posted by HumanVoltage
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I apologize, but trying to Wade through all of that… What specific questions can we help you with? There is a r/Scams sub which might help you recognize future scams. But I couldn’t find the actual question unless it is kind of a “what now?” question, which seems more about life than just personal finances.
Do you currently hold a job? What are your expenses, and what are your goals?
You haven’t mentioned anything about your financials…. So what kind of help advice are you looking to get at?
You are in control of you; no matter what other things happen in your life.
Lots of people have awful times without assaulting other people.