Ive been smoking for almost 10 years, weed and cigarettes.. i was also working so i thought it was ok.. but i realise now that i dont have no social skills, i care about people but cant do much about it.. last month i decided to quit and haven’t smoked since.. but i constantly feel like I’ve ruined my life and let down my family who have done nothing but support me.. i was good in studies but now just average software engineer.. i have got beautiful and caring partner.. i am not married yet.. but every morning now when i wake up i feel like crying.. i even cry a lot… thinking i am ruining her life.. i feel like i havent done anything for my family… i just keep crying.. i am also not able to sleep past few days.. little bit sweating.. always get negative thoughts.. no vision for future.. no confidence.. even when i see my family member photo like my brother or sister or nephew or my fiancee i immediately start crying.. its been more then month i have quit but these things still keep happening
Quitting 10 years of smoking
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Posted by LetsgetBetter29
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You need to talk to a doctor, you are experiencing a serious mental health issue, and they can help you identify what might be going on, and refer you to the right place for treatment.
This is really concerning. Definitely talk to a doctor as soon as you can. That sounds awful to go through.
Being a software engineer is a big accomplishment. Battling a ten year addiction and quitting is a big accomplishment. You have a great partner. You are nowhere close to a failure to anyone, you have a life many would be envious of. Sounds like you have some other mental health issues going on, maybe go see a therapist to explain.
Hi, I stopped smoking too, ten years ago now.
I had paranoia attacks and tachycardia.
I lived two years not understanding, crying, regretting life.
I have several acquaintances who have experienced the same thing.
I believe this is a normal and difficult withdrawal process.
You should try an activity that makes you feel good.
Garden, drawing, yoga, photography etc.
Something intimate that allows you to discover the beauty of the things around you.
It does a lot of good and hold on, it goes away even if the process is long and sometimes shaky.
Not sure this belongs in personal finance, man. But from what you describe it doesnt seem too bad.
Tomorrow after work go get some flowers or a gift to your beautiful partner. Then send a text or call your brother and sister and just see whats up and that you miss them.
Next paycheck take some and put in a savings account for you. That is yours and no one can take it. Do this every check.
Keep paying your bills, and weekly tell the people you love that you love them. Show your partner that starting tomorrow. Tomorrow is the start of a new beginning. It will only work if you are serious about starting tomorrow.
At work, organize your desk and do a good job. Make a task list and get it done. Every day you need items to check off.
Start investing in a roth ira or 401k. Take an hour a day for yourself and find something to be interested in.
Listen to some Tony Robbins and Jim Rohn, or whoever you like on your way to work and back home.
Hey there if you could please do me a favor when you read this take a deep breath and acknowledge your body chemistry is substantially out of whack because of the substances you have quit I would absolutely suggest mental health counseling a lot of people myself included have self-medicated to make up for what was not being helped within them please do not be afraid to share with your lovely beautiful and caring partner please do not be afraid to talk about it with your doctor and do not be afraid to acknowledge you are having a hard time right now it is okay my friend you are going through a metamorphosis in which you were changing your body chemistry it will be for the better but it will be helped with some professional medical help please take care of yourself okay?
You did a really hard thing. You should be proud of things you’ve accomplished. There’s always going to be times when you wish things turned out differently. Instead you can look ahead and get excited about how things are going to be so different now that you’ve got clarity and new found motivation. Go be the change you want to be. Nothing holding you back now brother.
Taking control of smoking is an enormous accomplishment. Let it be the first of many.