Hi there, I am 36 M, married. I lost my mother 6 months ago. As soon as I graduated, I had to take on financial responsibility. My brother and dad don't support me financially, instead, they enjoy spending and living a life. My mom used to influence them and support me morally.

    (After her sudden passing, I feel that our (dad & bro) connection is lost. They have their agenda to live life than doing hard work. They both have plans to earn with huge capital that is not possible for a family that has nothing other than an ancestral house. Starting small or hard work seems to be very underrated to them. They see me as intelligent & earns but not good enough for any thing else. Maybe they do hate me. For last few years, I have distanced myself a bit. Even during health care issues, they are not interested in sharing anything with me. There are also no other relatives who could understand me or set the situation right.)

    Over the years, I have cleared all the debts. About 1 crore INR in savings now (stock index funds and blue-chip stocks). No house. No car. No kids. Just my work, company health insurance, and living within the bounds of my salary & save as much as possible. For me, taking care of my mother has been my goal but it's lost now. I feel like I am stuck with no financial goal. Compared to my friends, I feel behind, slower in life, did not settle down or live a life and travel the world. I don't think I made mistakes, but I feel stuck with no reason to motivate myself. I am alive today, so I eat, live, work, but I feel empty. My wife and some friends are helping me to feel good about life and spend time with me, but the emptiness and lack of financial goal feels like an uncomfortable pause.

    Struggling with financial goals.
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    1. Tight_Pomegranate_11 on

      I am sorry you feel alienated from your family and about your mother’s passing, but I wanted to say that I think there’s more to life than just gaining as much money as you can for whatever you’d like it should be used and if I were you I would try for a child, they’re amazing gifts and can spark love in your heart again making life feel far less empty

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