I put in my two weeks today at a company I genuinely love. Amazing manager, team, culture, work life balance – I was truly happy there.
Current comp:
70k base + 30k variable
New role:
120k base + 120k variable
I wasn’t actively looking. This opportunity resurfaced unexpectedly after interviewing there in the past. Financially, it feels life changing for my family and kids.
When I gave notice, my manager immediately countered with a promotion:
80k base + 80k variable
That honestly made this even harder because it showed how valued I am.
Now I feel excited, guilty, anxious, and heartbroken all at once. Part of me worries I’m making a mistake leaving a place where I was genuinely happy, but the financial difference feels too significant to ignore.
Has anyone else left a job they loved purely for financial opportunity? Did it end up being the right move?
Leaving a job I love for more money and feel awful about it
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Posted by ClassySemicolon
17 Comments
you made the right decision. That kind of money can set your kids up for a good future
>That honestly made this even harder because it showed how valued I am.
Don’t get caught up in feeling valued. They would waste no time letting you go if they needed to. If that were true they would’ve matched your current offer. Loyalty is to your family and your pockets. Not to any corporation.
If it’s truly life changing, then it was probably worth the move.
It won’t make that much of a difference if you end up working longer and harder for that extra pay.
Taxes eats your pay once you break 100k
Unless the new job is horrible work environment or the hours are incompatible with your life I would always take the higher paying job if pay is substantially more.
Leaving a good team is extremely hard. Being $40K under is hoping you’re desperate for stability, not showing you that you’re valued (from the company). However, your managers hands are probably tied since it can be a huge challenge to keep people paid equitably or at market rate.
Many years ago, I did accept a counter offer to stay but only because they beat the offer by $10K. I ended up leaving a few years later when moving to another city, but still meetup socially with my former manager/mentor and a few colleagues a decade later.
Go with the new job. The counter isn’t competitive enough to not see how much you can love your new opportunity.
I’d try to find some people that work/worked at your new company for inside scoop on culture, management, work/life balance to make sure it’s not too good to be true.
If your current employer really valued you that much, why did it take you giving notice to be willing to pay you better?
A 60% raise just because you’re leaving is as best, a slap in the face because they were always willing to pay you much more. Think back of there were ever any times you felt like the raise wasn’t as much as it should have been. At worst, this is a stall tactic to buy them more time to find a replacement.
I left jobs that I really enjoyed for higher paying ones. Zero regrets.
I did the exact opposite. I left a decent job to take my dream job on a good team making less money. I’ve chased the money in the past, and it wasn’t worth it.
It’s just a job…. They would let you go in a minute if they had to…. Do what’s best for you and your family
Financially you will be better off no matter what. But professionally, you may never feel as happy as you were at your the current job. I’ve been in a similar situation before. My job was going to change and I chose to leave the best job of my life for a new much higher paying one. I ended up not liking the new job professionally but I did love the money. The reality was the old job was disappearing however so I would have definitely been worse off if I stayed. But I would give up my higher pay to go back to working that original job if it still existed
Valued? If they valued you they would have offered you that a long time ago. He quickly countered them with a weak number but it exposed how much value you brought to the team. In a few weeks, you’ll be set at your job and you’ll forget the old place. Congrats on the major promotion.
I’ve liked every job I had (been lucky).
I left every one for a financial opportunity. All 3 of them (I’m late 30s).
I’ve never regretted it.
Some people are not meant for money if they let emotions impact every decision. Move forward, make the money, invest, get out of all the bullshit in time, and enjoy time with family.
The counter makes you feel good but should really make you pissed off. So…they were sitting on that promotion and extra pay but just letting you slave away. They were content using you. I would peace the fuck out.
100% leave, always. Never take a counter offer.
‘Peace out old job. I’ve got kids to feed’ – should be you
You don’t think they’d hire you back in 6 months if you hate the new job?